Mike:
Thanks, and I’m sorry to hear about your Father. I thoroughly respect his service and your way of remembering him.
My suggestion would certainly have to be approved by the families involved. Everyone handles these things differently, and some welcome the honor of remembrance. Totally the families’ call, though, and they might well decide based on what their lost family member would want. Just an idea on my part, and one way to turn something bad into something good.